My boyfriend is probably the only dude on the planet who, upon hearing the question “do you want a Fleshlight?”, responded with a shrug. But it’s not the Fleshlight’s fault he felt this way; based on past experiences, he was convinced no masturbation sleeve would ever wow him.
But let me put it this way: now my boyfriend and I know why the Fleshlight has its own forum.
I was expecting the Fleshlight to come in painfully heterosexual packaging, but it actually just comes in a plastic bag.1 Never fear, though, the Care and Usage brochure is incredibly heterosexual, with ladies in lingerie bending over and holding vagina Fleshlights everywhere (there is a lonesome dude on the back in a half-hearted attempt to appease teh gayz). All sexualities aside, though, the brochure is decent, explaining everything from the white plastic tube that comes lodged in the Fleshlight’s orifice (just remove it, dum dum) to numbered instructions on how to properly jack off with the Fleshlight.
The Fleshlight consists of a big ass plastic “flashlight” case (which is supposed to be discreet, except it reads FLESHLIGHT on the side) and a removable sleeve. The sleeve is a floppy, silly-looking piece of Fleshlight’s own Superskin material. Superskin is a delicate, phthalate-free (and porous, so no sharing unless you’re fluid-bonded) material that feels very much like the skin on a flaccid penis. As always with such a soft material, Superskin has stringent requirements on how it can be treated — Fleshlight warns that the Superskin may deteriorate if it meets up with some of our gooey friends: soap, detergents, oil- and silicone-based lubes. So to keep the Fleshlight in tip-top shape, it must only be used with water-based lube, and it must be cleaned only with water (and a small amount of isopropyl alcohol if necessary).
This particular Fleshlight is one of the originals, so the interior of its sleeve does not have any exciting bumps or swirls — it’s just a long, unadorned hole. Which is actually what makes my boyfriend’s reaction to it even more unexpected.
My boyfriend was grinning after he used the Fleshlight. Grinning, people. His reactions to other masturbation sleeves have been indifferent shrugs and swift shakes of the head. He has never become attached to a masturbation sleeve. He’s never used one past the testing period. But the Fleshlight has blown every other masturbation sleeve out of the water — and, more surprisingly, it seems to have even blown my boyfriend’s own hand out of the water.
There is a slight caveat to his adoration, though. He finds holding the Fleshlight and moving it over his cock awkward, and very much prefers the shoe method. The shoe method (which is not something either of us invented; it’s in the Fleshlight website’s FAQ) allows for hands free fucking of the Fleshlight — which can also be accomplished by lodging the Fleshlight under a couch cushion or mattress, if the height is just right.
So my boyfriend is pretty enamored with the Fleshlight when he doesn’t have to hold it. It feels very much like a vagina, he says. Whilst probing around in the Fleshlight’s orifice with lube, I had to agree — it does feel like a vagina. Yes, I fingered it, and I will finger it again! The material is just so soft and pillowy…
Anyway. I also enjoy using the Fleshlight on him. It gets a bit heavy, but otherwise, it’s stupidly simple. And get this: after using it on him, I offhandedly asked him if it was better than a blowjob. Smiling a bit, he sheepishly said “yes.”
Yes, world, the Fleshlight is better than a blowjob.
The Fleshlight can also be warmed in hot water (no boiling and no microwaving), but in my experiments, it did not hold its warmth for too terribly long. One minute of soaking equated to about two minutes of warmth; three minutes of soaking to maybe five minutes of warmth. All of my testing equated to one prune-like finger.
Fleshlight cleaning is a bit tedious, as a material as delicate as Superskin really won’t last if it’s neglected. The Superskin sleeve can’t be turned completely inside out (although my boyfriend can bend a good portion of it inside out), and like I mentioned, can’t be washed with any soap or detergent. This means that my boyfriend can’t do what I do with my toys — leave them sitting out in the kitchen overnight before bothering to clean them.2 If he wants to keep his Fleshlight clean and long-lasting, he has to find a sink fairly quickly after jacking off, wash the sleeve out, and set it out to dry. It should not be placed back in its case without drying completely, or it could mold. Additionally, it can be dusted with corn starch to bolster its softness.
But ask my boyfriend, and he’ll tell you it’s all worth it. When I asked him what he loves so much about the Fleshlight, he said “the material.” Being able to fuck it in a shoe is very important too, but that alluringly soft material is the number one reason he is going to continue sticking his cock in the Fleshlight far after this review is published. Now he just needs to try all the different interior textures…
- Mine did not come with a tin. [↩]
- Since condoms are compatible with Superskin, wearing a condom is a good solution if you know you won’t be wanting to get up and wash the Fleshlight after using it. [↩]