In fact I’d go so far as to directly contradict this guy: I think this kind of sexual exploration is normal, healthy and fun. Its a good way for kids and teens to enjoy their sexuality without having to worry about partners or pregnancy. I think anyone who doesn’t currently have a partner should masterbate in any way that feels good to them – it is entirely your right to enjoy your body in whatever way you choose.

I’ve never heard of anyone who hurt themselves or did any serious damage through masturbating. But I’m pretty sure that you are all sensible enough to stop masturbating if it starts to hurt. I think if you do that you can avoid doing yourself any harm. Even if you have hurt yourself, your body will heal and you will be fine. If you’re concerned you could ask your doctor or put a question on a q and a service and people will tell you.

I think masterbating in any of these ‘forbidden’ ways will actually make it more likely that you will have fun and enjoyable sex with a partner when you’re ready, because you will be comfortable with your body and you will know what you like and what turns you on. At least that is how it worked for me (and I am a shy, serious 29 year old girl….not someone highly sexed or unusual!)

So that is my rant. Hope it helps some of our younger / uninformed readers to realise this guy is wrong – enjoy whatever feels good to you (and your partner).

This site should be reported to…someone…I don’t know who. But this ignorant man is causing irreparable harm to countless young people’s current and future sex lives. And he’s super creepy. What kind of adult (I’m sensing middle-aged) man who ISN’T in the medical or sex education fields finds it appropriate to run this sort of site? What makes him think he’s qualified to advertise his GROSSLY ill-informed OPINIONS as fact?!?

I bet his long history of sexual dysfunction and dissatisfying sexual relationships aren’t caused by his former “traumatic masturbatory syndrome” (is that a thing? are we being serious with that??). Rather, I’d be willing to bet it has something to do with his ridiculous ideas about what is “normal” and “healthy”. No wonder he’s not married.

I checked at the bottom of the page…last updated April 23, 2011.

What the hell is wrong with this guy!? I suspect he has the brain worms with what sort of garbage he spews out. The excerpts from him were almost too painful to read.

On that note, I spoke with him before I linked to the site and told him in very clear words what I thought of his advice while also suggesting that he change it as his beliefs were outdated, judgmental, close minded and came across as insincere – unfortunately he didn’t.

That said, the hymen diagrams on the website are possibly still some of the best I’ve found to date – my intention wasn’t to send folks to his page for advice, guidance, having their questions answered or to learn about sexuality/female masturbation (as I’d already covered those topics in videos myself) – it was simply to view images of the hymen in its many and varied forms so that females of all ages would have a better understanding of their body and not be alarmed if theirs looked different than other images they had found online.

If you know of a better online diagram please link me to it! (even if it’s just images) I”ll more than happily send traffic that way rather than to the Healthy Strokes Website.

Why is this real? I want to weep.

This started off kind of funny, but by the end, I swear steam was coming out of my ears.

Masturbation, girlies, you iz doin’ it wrong! Really?!!! Gah!!!!

I REFUSE to go to that website to look at it (REFUSE, dammit!), though I am sending hacking vibes over there in the hope that the whole thing will get zapped (see that, that was a demonstration of my complete and utter lack of understanding of all things geeky, but the outraged point stands!).

Ferns