Comments on: Policing sex toy reviews?

By: rocketlindy

rocketlindy — Sat, 10 Dec 2011 00:26:11 +0000

I know I care a lot more about reviews than I do about other people’s sex lives. I like your blog precisely because it’s mostly reviews.

If I go to a “review” kinda blog and have to go back a page or two to find an actual review, I’ll probably not be back.

By: Rose

Rose — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 01:52:42 +0000

@Epiphora: Epiphora, the REASON I come to your blog is because I know that I will find great, well written reviews that make me laugh and make me want to try out a product and see my own results. I prefer your website over many others (though I still read the others) *because* it gives me reviews of the toys I’m hungry to learn about. Having not owned any sex toys myself, I love to know what sex-toys are considered good (by many reviewers) and which are considered “bad”…so why not inform myself of such things?

I tend to get bored when review-sites only talk about their personal life…I want the reviews, baby! The down-and-dirty details like, who gushed when and what felt best, and why they liked this toy…rather than when Jimmy went to get the mail on Saturday…

But those who write about their personal lives, it’s their choice – and I say, if you can exercise writing even more, write away!! Sometimes, it is interesting to see a little personal background of a reviewer, so I know how they function throughout daily life, as well as get their sexual needs taken care of.

But I do believe that you are right to have mostly reviews on your website…considering that this, after all, *is* a SEX TOY REVIEW site.

By: DominaDoll

DominaDoll — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 00:32:15 +0000

Back again. You’ve also inspired me Epiphora. Here’s my post and thoughts on the subject:
http://lucreziamagazine.com/popmycherry/2009/02/sex-toy-reviewers-controversy/ Please come read and support me! Thanks! Comments most welcome

By: Champagne and Benzedrine

Champagne and Benzedrine — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 18:45:44 +0000

I have to admit, I agree with AAG’s comments – there are FAR too many reviews being posted on many sex blogs and I, like many people (presumably AAG) will often skip past a blog that has a review as the initial landing post (I might try again in a day or so, but if I see another review, I’ll probably give up.)

But you put it best here:

“If I lose readers for having “too many reviews,” then those aren’t the appropriate readers for my blog.”

That’s absolutely fair enough. YOU write your blog for YOUR reasons and you have the freedom to post whatever the hell you want.

but I don’t think AAG or others were trying to ‘police’ people’s blogs. I think she’s just giving legitimate constructive criticism that all these reviews somehow dilute the point of posts about sexuality and sexuality-related blogs.

It’s not that they’re not as legitimate as ‘real’ blog posts (I should know, I write reviews for a living.) But people interested in sex and sexuality are presumably getting frustrated about seeing so many of them. AAG was merely expressing that frustration.

By: DominaDoll

DominaDoll — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 02:15:21 +0000

Thanks Epiphora for taking a stand on this and being so brave. I admire you and your writing rocks! I’ll have more to say about this tomorrow as I am recovering from my trip to Montreal. I was very saddened to come back and find @aag’s post and what i felt was a lot of negativity directed at sex toy reviewers because of a list that myself and @scarletlotus created. Anyway… More tomorrow when I have my head on straight, but thank you for not apologizing for being a great reviewer and doing what you do best! ~HUGS!

By: Sleeping Dreamer

Sleeping Dreamer — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 21:58:46 +0000

You’ve inspired me Epiphora… as well as AAG’s response to my post… I had to write up a post because well, I’m a reviewer.

http://www.sleepingdreamer.com/2009/02/are-reviewers-sacrificing-integrity.html

By: Adriana

Adriana — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 20:37:25 +0000

I wonder, then, if so many of us apparently read this the “wrong” way, does that not indicate something?

By: Alpine Subdreams

Alpine Subdreams — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 16:39:19 +0000

Hi Epiphora,

Thanks for this post. I agree with many of you and saw that AAG post was more of an attack. I do agree with some of her points but I believed there should of been other ways to say it.

I’ll keep this short and sweet, I love your site and your reviews. Your doing a great job and will always have a place in my feeder.

By: O

Sun, 08 Feb 2009 11:04:17 +0000

Naturally you responded on a personal level…I didn’t put that well. I was suggesting you took it personally when it wasn’t directed at you or blogs like yours.

That’s how I read AAG, and that’s what she confirmed in her comment.

Insofar as the use of the terms ‘we’, ‘us’ and ‘community’ is involved, I only read AAG as saying that the community ought to endorse certain standards about safety and have standards about the companies worked with and so on–in fact, they’re all standards that you yourself acknowledge that you’ve endorsed from the beginning. That’s the only sense in which I think anyone wants to ‘police’ sex toys reviews, and I think we (yes i said we) can all agree on that, and already do.

thanks for this post; I always appreciate a good debate. In re: the blogosphere, let a hundred flowers of opinion bloom–it’s what it exists for.

cheers,
O

By: girlfrisky

girlfrisky — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 05:15:20 +0000

all i know is that if i need to read a review of a sex toy, epiphora is where i will start looking. some sites are for erotica, some for blatant recounts of events and/or musings [like mine] and some are for reviews. I like knowing that one site does one thing and does it well. that keeps me coming back.